In life, success and failure are inter connected. The urge to achieve new heights exists in every man's heart. Life is a set of wishes. The moment one wish is fulfilled another one is born. Precisely, man even dies with a wish buried in his heart, while leaving this world. If we start thinking that whatever we have is enough and whatever happening is best then life would become so peaceful but what do we do with this sea of wishes who's never content. If we become content of what we have then neither will we be jealous of others nor their expensive clothes, luxurious lifestyle or bright shiny cars would appeal to us.
If you wish to become everyone's then put an end all the disgusting feelings inside your heart, doesn't seem easy but a minor decrease in them can do wonders for you. Every woman wants to beautify her self but you can only make it possible by purifying yourself from the inside. You can only look attractive and unique if you're highly good mannered. Only a good mature can beautify your personality. The way of talking is enough to reveal half of your personality's aspects and the other half is revealed by good manners; hence you can only becomes everyone's favorite if you succeed in making a special place in their hearts. This isn't a very challenging task but for this you'd have to make way too many sacrifices. Every woman wishes to be praised, liked and craves to be everyone's favorite but do you ever ponder over what you think about others. A wise man once said; whatever you think of people exactly portrays what they think of you. Good give and takes. This small sentence explains well but for those who think, every bad deed can be cured with good. Therefore make your good deeds prominent in front of bad deeds, tolerate mistakes of others, blame your ownself for your mistakes, stay away from jealousy and harsh feelings for others, looking at others being envious and getting jealous is harmful for your personality, in fact this is dangerous for your own soul but this clearly doesn't mean you stop wishing for better after looking at them, this is what'll drive you better in the journey called life. But increasing the list of your wishes and ruining your own peace is also noteworthy. Here are a few suggestions make yourself a better person and to attain a unique personality;
We do not claim that these can give you a successful life but yes, these can definitely make your personality unique and your life peaceful.
- Stay content in all circumstances.
- Analyse your ownself and correct your bad deeds for this is what'll make you better.
- Move forward but with your own effort and hard work.
- See how you talk. Try to communicate in a softer tone, be a good listener it'll make your personality really attractive.
- tolerate mistakes of others, correct your own mistakes and be thankful to Allah for all that he's blessed you with.
- Take care of your external self too. The way you dress up should be according to your personality and the colors should be appropriate.
- For inner peace, offer prayers five times a day and recite Holy Quran atleast one ruku, with translation, daily.
- This will really affect your personality.
- Correct yourself, keep your personality unique, but this does not mean create your own world.
- Don't just live monotonously, don't follow people senselessly, be content on what you're blessed with, be Thankful to Allah in all circumstances, don't waste your time and use your time wisely.
- People who value time, become successful.
- Make time for others, accept them with their goods and flaws.
- Make space for people in your heart.
- Make a place in their heart, do good and hope for good, you'll always succeed.
Quarrels between couples, dangerous for the heart:
Fight..... No matter how big or small, where there are emotional side effects, there are bodily effects too. Fights between a husband and wife are famous. These affect the whole family as well as the couple itself. Scientists say that a fight between a husband and wife not only are full of harsh words but they also harden the veins which is too harmful for the heart.
Scientists of University of Ottawa investigated 150 couples and concluded that, the fights between them may affect sex. The reason behind artery diseases in women is due to anger and frustration, while in men the reasons may vary. For a trial, couples were chosen and they were given a few topics for arguments. Topics that normally cause each of this flip out. And all the couples were closely observed and the conclusion was; the women who use harsh words during the argument tend to be at a greater risk for the artery diseases. On the other hand, men who listen to more harsh words and tolerate tend to be at a greater risk and they may harden their arteries. Few of them were adviced to see a doctor. A medical professor once said that arguments are a part of every relationship and reasons that affect one's heart may vary but still one must try to improve his marital relations for a better living. (Samiyah Meer)
